Stop Beating Yourself Up – 5 of Swords
Stop beating yourself up. We all make mistakes, we don’t get everything we try for, and there is always someone who does it better than you. Sometimes life gets in the way, sometimes we get in our own way, and sometimes we try hard for things that are not meant for us or not available to us at this time.
If you’re feeling like the guy on this card is looking then it’s time to assess what went wrong and what you can adjust within yourself or your processes. Any mistakes or “failures” are simply an opportunity to learn about yourself and whatever it is you’re persuing.
Say you’re looking for a job and submitting your resume to anything you can find with little response. You might realize that the preferred format changes all the time and you now have to design your resume to target the digital tools used to scan submissions.
Maybe you get interviews but no callbacks so you might look at your recent interviews and realize that your lack of confidence caused you to stutter and blunder or overconfidence painted you in an unsavory light.
If you’re trying to start your own business you may be too rigid in your process, forgetting that you will have to try many different approaches to see what works for you and attracts others to you. You might be giving up to easily, not realizing the amount of time or effort is really needed to see results. Maybe you have unrealistic expectations, it can take years to build a solid customer base, that person you see who became a millionaire doing what you do may be the exception rather than the rule.
You should also consider that we live in a time where jobs are harder to get and people have less to spend on whatever it is that you’re doing. If you’ve determined to commit yourself to this particular path then you might seek out ways to diversify while you continue.
Of course, you can apply this to other areas of your life, career is just what sticks out to me right now. Your mistakes and life’s hardballs are opportunities to examine and improve not only your process but the way in which you react to your circumstances.
You will get much farther in anything you do if you choose to approach it from a perspective of learning instead of punishing yourself with self-defeating thoughts that are bound to show in your actions.