This follows yesterday’s card perfectly as coming into your own power is both a way to heal as well as the result of our healing. Today is a day to examine the people and situations that make you feel powerless.

Of course there are things that we have no control over but there are situations or connections in which you have given away the power you have over yourself and your choices. It’s time to take your power back, even if you feel more comfortable letting someone else take the wheel.

This is especially true for those who have suffered violence and trauma. Our power is the biggest thing these people and situations take from us. We become small and quiet, often avoiding anything that even remotely resembles conflict. We don’t realize at the time that we have the power to create our own path in life.

When I was 16, my father killed himself and my mother just checked out. In my youth and grief I allowed my circumstances to guide me and found myself pregnant and married to an abusive man less than a year later. It took a lot for me to even feel like I could leave but strangers stood up for me and placed my power back in my hands. I enlisted the help of another stranger to get me out.

Of course I had years ahead of me for healing and a few new traumas but I was finally taking back my own life. I found that my experience gave me the power to help other women leave and that healed those parts of me that felt so small and powerless in my marriage.

Empowering others had helped me to further empower myself. I found a new sense of self worth and actually began doing things like setting goals for my life. Of course, this did not all happen in the moment of leaving, I was building my life and my power one experience at a time.

Whatever your story may be, you have the power to change the trajectory of your path. It is your path, nobody else’s, but first you have to realize that is actually possible. I hope my story may help in that realization.

If you are in an abusive situation, please know it doesn’t have to be that way. Some will have a much harder time than others so please seek out the help of friends (yes even the ones you may have left behind) and look for resources in your area that may help you. Be safe my friends but not so much that you resign yourself to unhealthy situations.