I think we are in need of as much self-care as possible these days. This goes beyond a relaxing bath when you’re shaking off a long day or little nail polish to brighten yourself up. Self care is about cultivating a life that nourishes your heart at least as much as you try to nourish your wallet.
We’ve got the idea somehow that pleasure is a bad thing, that our happiness takes a back seat to our duty. We forget that enjoying ourselves makes light work of our responsibilities and produces better results.
We keep people (and jobs) who deplete our energy and hammer on our insecurities, not realizing that we have some control here. Boundaries are self-care, distancing yourself from those who leave you feeling drained or stressed is self care, “no” is the ultimate form of self care.
Removing the unnecessary drain of your time, energy, and sanity frees up space for the good stuff to get in. These are the things, the people, the thoughts, the activities, that nourish you and help you build your best life; pleasure in it’s highest form.
A very specific message for someone out there is to stop waiting for a particular partner or circle of friends to do things with you that you want to do. Go do them by yourself and you will meet others who will join you in that part of your journey. There is not a single person out there who can be everything you need, this is why we have friends and communities.
Happiness is not a destination, it’s moments of pleasure, love, and gratitude, so make as many of those moments as possible.