Your own words are holding you back. Saying and thinking things like “I can’t” remove the possibility of finding any solutions to your problem. Chances are you can but you don’t want to (which is how we create good boundaries) or you can if you seek out creative alternatives and helpful others.

Of course we all have our very real limitations and there are things we actually can’t do, but the words we use have a profound effect on how our brain determines what is possible and what we think of ourselves. The “I can’t” mindset spreads from that particular limitation to cast doubt and impossibility on things that are not affected by that limitation at all. It becomes a shadow that touches everything we think and do.

Mind your thoughts and your words. If you find yourself thinking you can’t, ask yourself why you think that and if there might be other ways to get where you want to go. Maybe you aren’t able to get exactly what you want but you are able to bring something into your life just as good, and most likely better. You won’t be able to do that if you just give up and resign yourself to the idea that this is how your life is supposed to be.

It’s time to take responsibility for your life and choose to make it better. Catch your negative thoughts and words then replace them with something positive. History is full of people who were told they couldn’t but did anyway.